Once upon a time, I was a woman who had never experienced heartache. I was naive, and optimistic. I had important women in my life, who taught me important things–but I lived my life in a happy little bubble.
One day, my bubble burst into a million shards of shattered mess, leaving me in so many pieces I didn’t think I’d ever go back together again.
Most of my memories of that time are muddy-at best. One thing is wildly clear. I came through that storm a different, better and stronger woman BECAUSE of the women that surrounded me and held me up.
My mom, while fighting breast cancer showed no weakness as I feel apart. She simply stood firm on the notion that when a heart is big enough to break into a million pieces, it’s also strong enough to heal. She is right.
Joann, (who taught me that women make the work go ’round), gave me the wisdom to be mad about what I should be mad about–and to get my revenge by going on to live a life a hundred thousand times better than any life I would of had with “him”. She is right, too.
Heather, who will be the head of my security detail if I’m ever famous. Heather cared for my baby girl like she took care of her own baby girl. Literally. And she listened to me, and validated me, and continues to participate in general badassary. Every girl in a crisis needs a sounding board to empathize and use swear words with. She is that woman.
Suzy. Without even a moment of hesitation this chick welcomed me into her home. She fed me. She cried with me. She protected me with a FIERCE sense of duty (you mother hen, you). We sat in the yard and watched the bumble bees fly by and basked in the reality of single motherhood. There was wine. There was laughter. There was adventure. If I can ever be that kind of light to a fellow Momma-it would be the honor of my life. And now that neither of us are single moms anymore we can look back at the wonder of how accurate our mantra was: “to thine own self, be true.” Ladies, when you love you- the only result possible is happiness.
Toni Marie. Soul Sister. Even from the far away land that my BFF calls home, she used her magic to keep my head above water. I don’t think a single person on this planet parallels Toni Marie when it comes to taking care of Tori. And while our friendship dates back more years than we really need to discuss–it continues to become stronger with every life victory and every life fail that the two of us encounter. My person.
So these women, who helped me find my way, they taught me how important women REALLY are. And of course there are so many other women to the list of women who are important women to me. Old and New alike. What better day than the International Women’s Day, to say thank you to the women who played the most important part in how I found my way?
Here’s to the strong women. Together–we can move mountains. I’m eternally grateful to the ones who helped me move mine. I promise that it’s my life’s goal to raise Violet to join us in the ranks of women who support women. Happy International Women’s Day! So much love to all of you ❤️